You’re Not Always Right

KEY VERSES:

• Philippians 2:1–8
• Proverbs 12:15
• James 1:19
• Proverbs 16:24
• 1 John 3:16
• John 3:16
• Romans 8

HIGHLIGHTS:

• Series Context: How Not to Ruin Everything
  • Relationships are both one of the best and hardest parts of life.
  • Week 1: It starts with you.
  • Week 2: Own it and apologize.
  • This week: You’re not always right.
• Talk Title: You’re Not Always Right
• What This Looks Like in Real Life
  • Interrupting people
  • Always needing the last word
  • One-upping others
  • Getting defensive quickly
  • Deflecting instead of owning mistakes
• Why We Do This
  • Fear of failure or looking wrong
  • Need for validation or approval
  • Past experiences of being put down
  • Desire for control and security
• How It Hurts People
  • Pushes people away
  • Makes others feel unheard and unloved
  • Dishonors God because we’re not loving His people
• The Root Issue: Pride
  • This isn’t complicated—it’s a pride problem.
  • Pride builds walls; humility tears them down.
• The Solution: Humility (Philippians 2:1–8)
  • Be like-minded and unified (v.1–2)
  • Value others above yourself (v.3–4)
  • Adopt the mindset of Jesus (v.5)
  • Jesus humbled Himself—even to death on a cross (v.6–8)
• Jesus as the Example
  • He was always right—but didn’t act like it
  • He chose service over status
  • He chose people over proving a point
• 4 Relational Shifts That Reflect Humility
  • Be teachable, not stubborn (Proverbs 12:15)
  • Be an investigator, not an assumer (James 1:19)
  • Prove your love before your point (Proverbs 16:24)
  • Live to please Jesus, not yourself
• The Heart Check
  • Do you actually love God?
  • Because loving God shows up in loving people
  • 1 John 3:16 → Love is demonstrated through sacrifice
  • John 3:16 → God’s love for us sets the example
  • Romans 8 → Nothing separates us from His love
• Main Takeaway
  • It’s not about being right—it’s about loving people well.

TALK ABOUT IT:

• When are you most tempted to prove that you’re right?
• How do you typically respond when someone challenges or corrects you?
• Which of the “always right” behaviors do you see in yourself?
• Why do you think pride shows up so easily in relationships?
• What would it look like to prioritize love over being right in a current situation?
• How did Jesus model humility in a way that challenges you personally?
• Where do you need to become more teachable or open?
• How can you intentionally love someone better this week?

APPLY IT:

• Pause before responding in conversations—focus on listening instead of winning.
• Ask questions instead of assuming someone’s intentions.
• Notice when you get defensive and choose curiosity instead.
• Let someone else have the last word without needing to correct them.
• Practice valuing others’ perspectives even when you disagree.
• Reflect on where pride may be showing up in your relationships.
• Choose to lead with love rather than proving a point.
• Daily ask: “Am I trying to be right, or am I trying to love well?”